The grit of life is hard to swallow. You make a presentation at
the office and someone points out a small mistake. The traffic
was terrible that morning and you were late to an important
appointment. You rehearsed exactly what you wanted to say to your
boss, but when the time came the mind went blank.
In each situation what was your internal response? Self blame?
shame? fear? Each instance of self-judgment is hard to stomach
and quickly creates added stress. What is your gut response to
the following common limiting beliefs?
Five Self-blaming Beliefs:
1. I deserve to be punished.
2. I look like a fool.
3. I am not safe.
4. I’ll be abandoned or rejected.
5. I am powerless.
Take a few minutes and trace any tightness back to its
Now, rewrite a new, self-empowering belief; take a nice deep
breath and repeat the belief several times.
Here are a few examples of shifting from shame/blame to
acceptance and support.
1. I learn from my mistakes and grow in patience and
2. I see my foolishness with the eyes of compassion and kindness.
3. I am safe and secure in my ability to love and accept all
parts of me.
4. I am loyal friend and ally to myself.
5. I empower my weaknesses with the strength of my loving heart.
Patience, compassion, acceptance and self-love settles the mind
and expands the heart. Full of grace the body relaxes and peace
Grace is the balm of the soul. Choosing to live under grace
rather than grit creates an abundance of simple blessings.
Ten Blessings of Grace:
1. I know that all experiences are growth promoting.
2. I find empowerment in expansion.
3. I experience acceptance in being honest.
4. I uncover purpose through loving.
5. I increase my compassion for others each time I come home to
6. I realize I am here to prosper.
7. I discover rewards in every moment of opening my heart.
8. I am assisted in times of challenge.
9. I receive in great measure while attending to my purpose.
10. I live in joy while seeking the divine within.
Challenge yourself to live one week with the blessings of grace.
Note any changes in your attitude and over-all anxiety. Pay
attention to any surprise glimpses of joy. Watch the tiny shifts
in your behavior ripple out and touch your work environment and
home life. Challenge yourself to one more week of grace, and reap
the bounty of your loving choice.
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